Lots of people in missions have not gone through the earlier stages of development, and have latched onto this idea of suffering for Jesus. Many unneccesary causalties occur in this, just as they do from anything built from our own understanding rather than His. We must find out where we are on our journey and let Him parent us there, so we can progressively come into the fulness of knowing Him.
God is a great parent and knows what we need at each stage! But we do not always know where we are at. We need to get with Him and find out. He will tell us, so we grow into a solid tree by His River!